i sense another monday where i will suffer monday bluezz again

Grrrr Grrr.. another tough week at work has passed.... little appreciation was shown . but i guess........thats because the battle was not fought well enough by me.. and probably i may have fall alittle short by his standards...

Nvrtheless.. i wanted to do some work at home this weekend.. i specially left Sat off to relax and hang out... .and planned to dedicate my precious sunday afternoon to work from the network.. But who knows the stupid server at work is under maintainance and this have left me high and dry.

Shitzz.. i think my meeting is at 9am.... which gives me no time to touch up the slides for the meeting.

Guess.. last alternative is to try to do up another set of slides and to combine it when i reach office... yucks........ which means double work..

I think... hopefully.... after monday... my life at work will be somewhat back to normal and will not be that intenze..... grrrrrrr...but i sense another monday where i will suffer monday bluezz again (its like that same dull pain in my head ..)

Happy Birthday to Me.. Happy Birthday to Me.. Happy Birthday.. Happy Birthday.. Happy Birthday to me!!

Yup yup.. Its my birthday today. D had cooked some Korean instant noodles ready at midnight..Well.. which was just nice to welcome my birthday as noodles symbolizes good health and a long life.

Look closely at the cake... its not square... See my previous post...and you would have know that we have already taken a bite out of the cake.. Ohh.. and if you notice.. there is the sparkling grape juice on the table.. which was a free gift from Westmall.. haha.. good timing i would say for a fancy celebration..

Well .. and what do you think is my birthday pressie this year from D... hah.. the 2 days before my birthday.. my hp started acting up... (hint hint)... haha.. yes .. u got it.. a Hand phone was my present this year. Nope.. its not "i" phone.. thou that was choice no 1.. but it was just too much of a hassle to change my phone provider.. to singtel.. So tada.. my hp is..SAMSUNG INNOV8!!!! And the best thing why i bought it.. is its a 8 Megapixel camera...:-)

Last Sat, the gals and i met up to go to some harbour restarant at tanjong pagar for dinner.. Din't take any photos then.. cause the group seem abit too big.. maybe will take some photos during our xmas exchange......here's just one which D took with Bong's son (Cutesy Yu Cheng..)

On Sun.. D and me when to a place which we did not visit in like 5 years. Its at boat quay.. it used to be famous.. the shop is 16 years old.. and the main branch is in Hong Kong.. hehe.. i don't think u can guess the restaurant.. coz.. its no longer basking in the spot light.. okie okie.. its DA WAN Zhou.. (Big Bowl Porridge..).. other than the porridge.. our fav.. is the Kung Pao Chicken... its Fab Fab fab...here's me.. giving it 2 thumbs up.. hehe

Today, we went to sushi tei for a simple fare.. some photos of us...

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Thou, i feel i will always remain 20 plus at heart.. the undeniable fact is i have joined the 30 club. No not feeling sad.. just feeling a sense that i can no longer use age as an excuse .

Hmm.. wishes this year... no more superficial wishes... just a few simple wishes that i hold dear to me.

Ohh.. also thanks to all who made this year special for me!!! U know who u are..

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A little dark rum and cognac goes a long way

A surprise was planned and executed for me on the 12th... Sadly, i spoilt the fun ... How???.. I was sick and couldn't go to work. So the plan was out of the bag.. .. and the plot was to delivery a CAKE for me at work. WOW... so nice of them... so happy i felt after knowing that so much care and tots were done to plan up for this surprise.




Here's what came delivered!!!

Shiok!!! It was so nice .. that i decided not to share with my colleagues.. and brought it home for D and me to eat.. It was so yummy, rich , smooth, aromatic and have a great aftertaste. All this was Thanks to bro and sparrow!!!

Some more photos to enjoy.. and tantalise your taste buds.. hehe.. in your case yur eye buds...

The cutesy box the cake arrived in...

Look what's in the box!!! The chocolate shavings... the layered contrast... cool!!!

Here;s me giving a thumbs up!!!! before eating the cake..

The taste of the cake was fab!!! see the layers.. each layer had its special taste.. the chocolate was thick and rich, the cream was smooth with a tint of cognac and the cake of moist with rum.. Best of all, it was just nice and not too sweet..

Special thanks to bro and Sparrow for giving me an early pressie for my birthday. Thanks for everything!!!! Muaks!!

Glimpse of the past...

Guess where i was this deepavali weekend.. i was up all the way to Cameron Highlands... I was there on Friday till Monday.. thats like 4 days.

The 1st day was just D and Me , we stayed at Strawberry Park.. but this time instead of staying at our usual block..facing the mountain range......we decided to op for the cheapest room.. due to the economic crisis.. haha.. (just trying our little part to save alittle)...The room was alittle old and dinky.. but it was considered okay for like a 3 star room... No horror stories in this hotel lah... but one thing i can't stand in hotels.. is WHY IS THE STUPID MIRROR ALWAYS FACING THE BED!!!!!!!!!! dun they know that ppl pang tang about it..BAD FENGSUI TO SLEEP WHEN THE MIRROR REFLECTS YOUR IMAGE.. .. Anyway.. the first night was quite nice.. although it rained alot.. that helped to drop the temp to 16-17 degrees... SHIOK!!!!

Ohh..by the way.. do you know that STARBUCKS had also worked its way up at Cameron Highlands... haha.. so thats the little bit of change seen.. well if you see Starbucks..you will know that that place has commercialised.. but i do recommend you to go there coz the ambience is quite cosy up at the 2nd floor. Its also not crowded except for a few Ang Mos.. coz.. probably the drinks are the exp ..at about 12 rm per cup... (D and me shared.. so we felt its okie ;-)

On day 2, we met up with D's family and moved to a cosy house ... its called ROSE COTTAGE.. .it had a nostaligic feel to it.. the switches in the house is the old kampong looking type... and again STUPID MIRROR IS FACING THE BED.........but other than that everything was fine....we went to bed. around 11.30pm....well.. i dunno about you.. but for me .. when i go to a new place.. i normally get some creepy feeling ..and have to overcome that before falling asleep.. so after tossing around i finally managed to sleep.. then...

I had this dream... I dreamt of the ROSE COTTAGE......the same room, same beds.. except... in each room.. there were names and numbers allocated to each bed.. and this person..(didn't see the face lah.. its like a shadow).. was going to each bed... dunno doing what.. and finally it came to bed number 3....... and in my dream i turned around and was really SIAN coz... i was in bed number 3. This bed position was also exactly where i was sleeping that night.... But i managed to wake up...but with a creepy feeling.. then i tried to go back to sleep.. then i heard a WEEEEEEng sound( like mosquito sound but it was constant pitch).. sub-consciously.. i felt that i better wake up .. or else the next dream will be even worst...so . i force myself to wake up again (wah and it was really tough.. it was like .. going into the GUI YA SHENG type of feeling).. in the end. i succeeded and squeeze with D at his bed......then i managed to sleep...feeling that there were some strange energies around...

Later that night....we heard my mother-in-law and my sister-in-law in the next room talking.. so D when over to check out why they haven't sleep... and YES.. you guess it right.. they too had some horror dreams......

My mother-in-law.. kept hearing the WEEEEEEEEEng sound.... but when she switch on the light.. there were no more sound (dunno if its mosquitos.. but there were no mosquito bites)..

My sister-in-law.. dreamt that there were 6-8 female ghost in the house (yes,, she dream about rose cottage too)... and they wanted to throw her out of the window...coz they demanded that she return them some money... anyway.. she managed to feign them off but saying "HALLEUYAH"...

There were some of us (seems only the females in the house, the males.. all sleep soundly) who heard sounds... footsteps.. stuff like that.. that night....and didn't manage to sleep well..

The 2nd night .. we heard sounds,,, like voices.. tapping sounds on window.. knocking on doors... footsteps.. Weeeeng.. .. but it has toned down...

Well thats all the horror we had.. anyway... its not because of the mirrors.. coz we covered it up before we slept... I guess.. its just some harmless spirits still trapped in a different era ........and for those we stayed there.. had a glimpse of the past.....

Terappins

Some photos of Terappins which i took in Penang ;-)

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Chasing Dreams

As I was hearing D sing and old song of Emil... the lyrics struck a chord with me....

We don't know how long we have in the world
We don't know if the success we are seeking for is worth it.
We don't know if the love we have is worthy to treasure.

We just know that being satisfied is the start of happiness.
We just know that if we are unhappy we will cry.

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Hmm.. knowing the above......just make me think......
.in the very end..........we have ourselves to face isnt it.............
its to the very end that you will know what you have chased this life is worth it or not..
its to the very end that you will be able to understand whether you had live your life meaningfully or not........
Its to the very end that you will know that when you are gone....what will remain...
its to the very end that you will know......

Introducing.......Gingi

Hehe... here's our new member of the family... Gingi... our gingerbread baby.....We felt in luv with Gingi at first sight and adopted him into our family... hehe....

His "bio" data:
Gingi aka Georgie the Ginger Bread Man
Place of origin: unknown
Adoption place: Vivocity Singapore
Body in Light Colorado Topaz crystal with Light Siam crystal buttons and Aquamarine crystal eyes; cream-coloured satin ribbon

Oooooo Oooooooo look at his cheeky smile..........

Major happenings

1) Fab Redang Trip.

Yes... we love Redang... our fav beach !!!!! This yr, we cut the travelling time from like 10 hrs to only 1.5 hrs.....FANTASTIC... heres what we flew in...Wah haha.......... ;-)

Look that the fab weather, the beach behind us... this was before we went for our swim... only regret in the trip was that we didnt bring a underwater cam... coz........ we really saw loads of marine life just snokelling... This yr, i kinda decided, i dun want to do scuba diving anymore.. coz its too much of a hassle... i much prefer the freedom of snokelling....
Lets name of few of the marine life we saw.. 2 Eels, 2 sting ray (one spotted ray), lots of jelly fish, one turtle, some cuttle fish, schools of fishes lots of marine fish.. like clown fish, parrot fish, baracudas., lots of corals.. clams... .. hope everyone going there will protect the marine life so that every year there will be more and more fishes.. and corals......!!!!!!!
Ohh.. look at the malay fishing boat behind D.........it looks more like a pirate ship..

2) Dad's one week hospitalisation scare.

My dad had a heart attack.. he was eating some snacks at home after work.. watching tv when he felt acute chest pains on the right side of his chest. Thou the Alarm sounded in his heart, he still decided to take a bathe..but lucky for him. he did not keep it to himself, he told my mum who quickly ferried him to the hospital.

There , they did a scan and found that he had a 100% block at one of his artery. OMG OMG.... immediate angioplasty with stent was done , with my dad still alert. Phew!

I only found out about this the next day at Redang Airport before my flight home... really gave me a scare.. Luckily, my bro and mum was around to take care of dad. Phew phew phew!!

I took the week off to accompany my dad and mum at the hospital. I think that made him felt better that there was support there with him all the way. We were thankful to the Drs and nurses there who gave him TLC and made him better. BTW, do you know that the hospital wards.. thou there are no tvs in class c wards... there are LIVE dramas .. there were families quarrelling on the treatment for the patient, there were familes that vent the anger on the nurses...

Yes, Dad is back to his normal self. But he is eating healthy food and feeling healthier too.

3) Change in working style and mentality... More demands,... more responsiblity and more to come...

4) Death of Ah Long

5) Revamp of the Guest room , study room and service balcony.



6) Happy 11th Yr Pa Tor Anniversary



7) Trip to Bird Park

That pretty much sums up everything... hehe..... will edit and fill in the blanks when i am free..

Today.. going out with Mum for our bi-weekly mother-daughter day... ;-) Haha... mothers are the best... they stick around with you.... nvr failing to care of you.. yup.. sometimes..we quarrel. sometimes we get emotional.. but when it comes down to it..........they are still the best friend one can ever have.

Sorry for not knowing this much sooner ;-)

Disheartened: Its how little u do that makes me sad

Sometimes... we just get disheartened by certain people, certain situations, certain mentalities and certain experience.

Well.. to blog it down,, means i guess... i have come to terms on this........

What you have done in the past , what you have been doing , reflects on how "important" my place in your life is. Its fine... really,, its fine....... life still continues.

This will put a close in this chapter. Realisation that nothing will change. No pt trying to move the mountain ... i will just move around it.

I will just move on... with or without you..... though sometimes.. i will think of you.. sometimes.. i will miss you... but thats pretty much i can do.

GIRL POWER

Last night, it was an ALL GIRLS NIGHT OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well we have known each other since we are 13 years old (SEC 1)....so its a 17 year old relationship.. can you imagine ....from awkward teens to young adults to working adults to married or soon to be married adults......we have seen each other grow.

The funny thing is.. we each really live our lifes apart from each other, each have gone to different schools, different career paths and yes, we may have even different opinions of different things.. I can even say, our characters are also different. I can't really remember what made us stick together after so many years.. but there is really no need to find something common between us coz we became part of each other life like family.

Yah.. sometimes the meetings r a little boring..but there are days where the meetings are fun too , but really... i guess we are just contented to see each other living happily, hear what each other is doing, share secrets and tips on certain things and we can just be with other...without pretending .

This year, we are all turning 30. Guess... we can't really pretend that we are still young.. (despite the plucking of white hairs, hehe)...hmm .......

When we are below 20, we are living our lives how our parents want us to be.
When we are below 29, we are living our lives how we hope it to be.
When we are above 30, I think, we can live our lives just the way we want it to be ;-)
When we are above 40, .. will fill in the blanks 10 years later...

Wallflowers

Wallflower: a person who from shyness or unpopularity remains on the sidelines of a social activity (as a dance) b: a shy or reserved person

I used to like being a wall flower... but things changes, perspective changes....

Working with a bunch of wall flowers... its seems great being a wall flower.. everyone is on the sidelines together ............but working with a bunch of bees....it seems easier to be a bee now than a wall flower .

Friends wedding

Here's a pic of my group of ex-colleagues during a wedding dinner for a close colleague. She is the sweetest bride i have ever seen, she kept smiling and waving at us, very very very very very sweet. I am sure her hubby will love her to bits.

Like what Sparrow said in one of her blog, sometimes, thou i hate attending such Gala Gala events, it depends on the person i am attending for. If it is someone whom i am close, i would love to see them on their wedding nite and to share my well wishes with them. I will surely not give the event a miss.

But for those that I seldom see or I am not close to, i don't see the need to go just because i feel obligated.

hehe.. .. blog this down for the photo too... ;-)

Reflections of today

Wah... sometimes i really wish i know how to pose for the phone camera.. so that my photo will turn out nice.. u know there are some people who knows which angle the camera should take. and all of their self potrait looks so nice......wish i was like that too... so i can post more photos of myself .. hehe.. ;-)

Last friday, our name tags (for our workstation) finally came.. and the "Fun" ppl decided to do something different instead of just indicating the name and designation. They decided to add a word to describe the person.. Just to share with you all how the naming works. ( I will try to post the photo later)

1) Pa Pa DD - > for the boss, he got the most nurturing leader award.
2) Wise M-> for the scholar
3) Smart M-> one of the female Ms
4) NIL-> another female M, the fun ppl did not to give her a name. but she decided that she wanted IN so she named herself as-> Sophisticated M
5) hehe.. as for me...I am named "Sweet" M.. haha.. i am quite happy with this.. at least it wasn't evil M, sour M, bitter M.. haha...

haha.. .... these are some crappy things that we do at work to keep us entertained...

OMG OMG OMG......... i got a active volcano spewing clothes at my house.. haha.. its my sofa filled with clothes.. waiting for a volunteer (me! me!.. cross my fingers.. that i will do it tonight)...to fold up all the clothes and put it neatly in the cupboard... wish someone will invent an all in one machine for my clothes (Washer, Dryer, Ironer, Folder, Storage) .. wah.. no matter how expensive i will surely buy... just put the dirty clothes in the machine and wahlah!! 1 hr later it can be found in my cupboard, ironed and folded or hanged neatly....... super super invention.. it will save so much time for the poor working ladies like me out there.. haha..

Okie okie its a 5 day count down time to my "Annual beach retreat" with hubby.. ;-) can't wait to swim in clear oceanic waters filled with marine life....to walk down sandy beaches.. with pearly white fine sand.... can't wait to hear the sound of crashing waves ..like a sweet lullaby... ;-)

Damn that CLOWN

Have u ever seen a clown at work....... let me describe one to you...

I have been attending almost weekly meetings with this "clown". She is an experience IT personel.. who have probably worked up her ranks through her knowledge and hardwork. But she is really disrespectful and always acts like a clown.

My first bad impression of her...
Long time ago, where i haven't had any dealings with her.. i met her at the toilet.. it was their IT ranking exercise.. and guess what she told me.. she told me to rank her fellow IT colleague low..... Wah come on lah.. you want to back stab your colleague also not like that. Shake head shake head.

My 2nd bad impression of her ...
B4 i transferred .. one "dragon boss" (dragon boss is those who are ruteless to those who stands in their way or is no use to them).. told me that she heard that i could not understand some accounting logic at the new dept.. .. I was like.....these kind of things also can spread??? and who is this dragon boss friend.. its this CLOWN lor.

My 3rd bad impression of her...
Instead of teaching her fellow colleague (same rank) on how her system works , she makes her IT colleague go all over the place with email.. and guess what she does... she sniggers behind and send emails to others.. teaching them how to reply her.......Wah cowz.. these kind of colleagues.. i dun want.

My worst impression of her and why i call her a CLOWN..
(l won't go to physical description of how she looks.. )..
In every meeting with her boss (an older women,, who seen the ups and downs.. turn of tide.. and is experience but alittle out-dated), this CLOWN will make faces (really she will make the worst exagerated faces) behind the boss whenever the boss speaks. She will sometimes.. add in some hand gestures... to show that the boss is talking crap and they should ask her instead... and this clown will always say.. (Dair......i told you so....) Sometimes.. even she is sitting beside her boss.. she will use her long thick hair to cover the side that her boss is at and to make some stupid face.(pls lah.. her boss is not blind... she can see what the CLOWN is doing)... at anyone who makes eye contact with her. Come on lah.. give some respect to your boss and be professional in your behaviour.. I think her boss is too gracious and have spoilt this CLOWN. If i am any boss... i won't promote this CLOWN no matter how knowledgeble u are.. coz.. there is no integreity in her behaviour..


haha.. u don't see me complain about ppl alot.. but this person really makes me want to spit at her... ..... Right now.. I don't make eye contact with this person.. les i encourage her to perform one of her repetitive circus act again. Grrrr.........the ugly side of human.......

Updates

The past 2 weeks.. .. there are updates of people leaving the co. I guess. really, when it come to the crunch.. the co. really doesn't have enough "Ummph" to retain staff. First, money definately..cannot be increased, 2nd, promotions are very limited and difficult... So if you want to climb the career ladder.. i guess.. its really not the place to be. But its so sad to see good collegues and staff leaving. (hehe.. if it was the lousy people leaving.. i will definately.. blow up the balloons and wave my hands widely and shout adieus... but too bad.. its almost always the good ones who leave....)

Here's a photo taken with one of the colleague whom i buddied when she came... the one beside me.. so sad.. one less lunchie buddy around.... :(

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Last night.. D and me when to botantic garderns around 8 plus for an after-dinner walk.. and to our delight.. there was a mini concert held there.. so for the price of $1.25 (parking cost)..we had a free concert .. it was mostly sung by some young teens... where most of the time the mic was too soft or the standard was not there.. but it was sure fun.. coz the weather was great, everyone was sitting on the grass... and everyone was well spread out and not cramped like sadines.. haha..we also got free lights..(dunno whats its called).....so we also wave the lights like crazy for like 45mins.. then we got bored and continued on with our walk..

Here's the photo to remember this fun nite

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Finally,, the last item up.. its the updates on the Thai restaurant (Lotus) which i went with D for dinner on Eat With Your Family Day.

First. .. here's D showing his appreciation to the food..see how big his eyes are...wow ...

Okie.. we had 3 dishes that day... starters- Lemon Grass Salad. which eats like a wrap..(there is a plate of lettuce that comes with it.. so you scoup the salad on to the lettuce..).. YUMMY!!!! its really quite special.. coz this item seems to be served only at this restaurant.

Main dish- Coconut Otah

Its quite nice.. there are sotong, fish, otah,, and coconut meat in the Coconut... D found that there are too many sotong.. and for the fear of his cholestrol.. he didn't fancy it that much..

Soup- Tom Yam (clear Base)

Thou it is clear based.. it come with a punch.. sour and spicy.. Yummy!!!!

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Thats all folks!!!!!!!

Frus

Real Frus today. Got this thingy about ppl abusing $.

What i mean is everyone should spend within your means. If you are poor.. well work harder to earn more $$ lah.. buy things you can afford mah. U are getting out of control.........................

Grrr... i won't go into details... les i offend the someone who luvs that someone... hahaha.. .. too obvious hor... hahaha...maybe i have to remove this post soon..... if i do.. u will know the someone.. is offended lor ;p

Anyway... nothing much special happening lately... no photos too.. had a farewell lunchie with one colleague... i had Thai food at a place called LOTUS restaurant. The lemon grass salad was fab!!..what else... hmmm.. the rest of the food.. so so.... but this restaurant got potiential.. so i am bring D tomorrow to try it out again.. .. ;p

GUESS WHAT DAY IS TMR?? ITS EAT WITH YOUR FAMILY DAY!!!!!!!!!! we get to leave office at 5pm.. thou D can only leave at 5.30pm.. i guess i will leave office early to slack abit... maybe go to the nearby MPH to rest and relax.. enjoy the aircon and flip some mags.

Surprise Party

Had my farewell party on Tuesday ...really touched by how everyone who cares for me ..did so much for me.. Look at all that i leave behind... ;( Feeling sad already. Luckily , i got a fantastic farewell card.. which is like 30 over pages.....with photos, love and lots of well wishes.. ..this card will tide me through the lonely days in my new dept...

Thanks to all my dearies who planned the party and shopped for all the gifts and spent so much time compiling the card.. Kisses and huggies to all..

Worked for 7 years in the old department, can't believe i am finally leaving it.... hiay... maybe its good for me too.. or i will get too comfortable and start slagging in time to come...

Leaving a place i love is nothing to be happy about... taking a new change in work is nothing to be sad about... so my feelings are...... mixed, confused and unknown.

But too late to look back now.. i can now only charge forward and start my work life in the new job.... ;)

I am back!!!

You must be wondering what happened to me... no updates since i came back from China...

Yes, i will promise you a blog with photos i have taken from China... and yes,,, China was more than what i had expected!! I had enjoyed the country and experience and would be looking forward to venture to more unchartered lands (unchartered means places i haven't been to ;) I will screen off the unpleasant situtaitons and only blog the good one...coz i just want to remember to good things in life. ;) (Alamak.. i forget to take a photo of the toilet in China to share with you all how it looks.. not for the faint hearted.. haha..)

So back to the question.. what happened to me... Hmm.. actually.. nothing much.. ;) just have been busy with hubby and work... seems no more time or put it bluntly.. i have been too lazy to blog.

Yup.. we bought a new car...its now known as my hubby's 2nd wife... Its a CRV..quite new..but quite affordable (just 1-2 hundred more than existing car mthly instalment). But i don't think, i would be able to drive it.. since it is so bulky.. Yup Yup .. i know.. i will be going to start taking my theory soon... (as soon as someones brings me to register.. haha..) Congrats to Sparrow in getting a pass in her theory test... !!!!

So these weeks have been busy... and with hubby back.. there seems endless things to buy and eat .. so we have put a restraining order on our wallets... haha... but before the restraining order was made.. we had already bought a Sony Bravia TV (40inch..) it was bought about $800 less than the normal price.. due to a road show.. but mainly.. our existing bulky TV have broken down and it takes a hitting session to get it up working (can you imagine us.. hitting the tv for like 15mins .. hoping each time ..each hit will wake the tv up... painful man.. real painful and the past 2 weeks.. i have not been watching TV.. )

Somemore.. I am officially going to transfer to a new dept...wef 1 May... going to start afresh ..to build new rapport with new colleagues... going to leave my precious team behind... really sad and heart breaking man.. = ::: ( but changes are good... been stagnant in the dept for too long.. time to move on.

okie then... be patient... for my china blog hor.. haha.. will try to post it up soon.....

Reflections of a long wait.

2 years ago, i sent off my hubby away to UK with a heavy heart. Lots of people must be wondering, why didn't i go with him? I can hear them saying , if i was you, i will be there with him. .. If it was only so easy... In the end, I made the decision to stay back in Singapore. Life is tough in UK, work was hard to find (given that my work was not specialised), the money earned by D would not be sufficient to reap any rewards.. instead we will end up spending up all for our food and enjoyment.

Well, supporting my husband's dream doesn't mean that i have to be by his side. If i was a hindrance, what support would i play then? Rather, I let him off to venture the world while i stay back to ensure that the home base will remains strong with me. With our goals kept in our heart, with both of us committing that this is what we chose to do, he left me......temporaily..

Here's some things we did to say connected the past 2 years...
1) Almost every weekend for was blocked for video conferencing each other(normally from 7pm to 12pm- Sat, Sun and Public holidays).
2)On weekdays- Mons to Fridays,...
a) it starts with every morning when i wake up , he will give me a wake up call (or vice versa) and i will say good night to him.
b) then at work, i will drop him an email for that day..
c) at 2.30pm , I will give him his wake up call (6.30am UK time)....we will chat abit..
d) and then i will wait for his email reply from work...
e) at around 7.30pm , i will give him a call during his lunch time to chit chat ..
f) and back home..we will email each other while he is working and me watching tv
g) i will read the email he sent the previous night and i will send him another email for him to read at home when he is back from work.....
h) finally before i sleep, another call to him say good night....

this is our weekend and weekday routine, the past 2 years. We stayed connected and committed this way.. we knew each other's mood every day, we knew what each other ate every day. we heard each other voices every day.. this is how we stayed connected...

Finally, my long wait is going to be over, in 16 hrs times, my hubby will finally be back home. With the home all sparkling, i await his return.. its like in the olden times:
a) when a swordsmen needs to leave his wife to roam the world to polish his fighting skills,
b)when a chinese scholar needs to go to the capital to sit for the imperial exams in order to obtain glory.

So this is how i felt about my husband's work trip to UK...without venturing, he will not go far, without venturing he would not be able to polish his skills, without venturing.. he may end up regretting missing that opportunity..

Haha.. so you can only imagine my joy now.. moments before my husband's return (btw, he is now in a taxi , on the way to London-Heatlhrow airport)..undescribable feelings of pride and joy.

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Deeper sentiments:

We had met early in our lifes,, before we had grown strong. So we stuck to each other, relying on each other's strengths to walk through our obsticles. We were like 2 creeper plants.. wrapping around each other in order to move up towards the sun. Was it love or reliance or habit? that we didn't know...

The time apart .. had made us grow independently, relying on our own strength to walk through our own obsticle. We had matured and strengthen our own characters and have grown up. Now, we are like two trees growing side by side, no longer relying on each other to reach the sun. We can lend our shelther to each other from time to time, but mostly, we just enjoy each other but no longer out of reliance or habit or need. Our roots runs deep beneth the soil, others may not be able to see, but we know how deep it goes.
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Reflections from a loving wife ;)

IS EVERYTHING IN LIFE FATED???

I was waiting at the bus terminal for my bus ride home ... doing nothing.. just looking blankly at the passing people and suddenly i had this tot and wonder is everything in life fated.

PART I: NOTHING IS BY CONCIDENCE
Eg.. On one occassion in my teens, I had planned to meet up a group of friends at the fun fair at bukit batok, I had board the bus from Toh Tuck.. and had rode all the way to Bukit batok.. but i couldn't see the fun fair nor my friend, dejected, i travelled back home... i wonder.. had i not missed that fun fair... what will happen???????

Another occassion, when we were driving to Dino's house in Perak with my parents... I suddenly had constipation (which is quite rare) at a rest area.. it was raining very heavily then.. i was in the toilet for close to 20-30mins..... then we drove again when i came out.. and 5-10 mins down the road, we saw a freak fatal accident which occured like few minutes before us.... the point is... i wonder.. had i not had the constipation... what will happen??????

Bring this concept up a notch... if it was fated that i was to see the freak accident, and get to feel that me having the constipation had averted an accident .. subsequently this experience had given me the awareness that life is not as simple as we think it is.. and for me to write this blog.. then this blog was meant to be too? haha...then if i didn't know Dino, then i won't be driving to his house in Perak, then i won't get to see the accident and won't get to write this blog? Get what i mean.. there is so many logics behind each incident in our life that nothing seems to be by concidence..... haha.

PART II: ITS NOT LIFE THAT MATTERS, BUT WHAT YOU LEARN OUT OF IT
If everything in life has already been planned out, and every decision i make is not really a decision but it was orginally planned for it to happen... hmm i am quite loss for words.. except that if you can't control your life since it is pre-set.. what is yours to control is what you learn out of it.

Eg,.. If walking from Pt A to Pt B is pre-set.. what is not preset is how you want to walk there, you can walk from Pt A enjoying the scenary or you can walk from Pt A complaining and grumbling all the way.

Hah... if you can understand the above, you will understand the meaning of my blog.......

PART III: RANDOM TOTS
In a lighter tone....Just random tots,,,...What will happen if i didn't go to USA? Will I still meet Dino this life?? How will we get to meet then if it was preset that we will be together??? I wonder....

Hopes for 2008 and Reflections of 2007

Haha.. alittle belated but here are some things i want to do for 2008 and reflections of 2007.

2008:
1) Go to a place I never been to. (Haha.. attaining this soon... coz going to China)
2) Cook up a Popiah party for my family. (Like having family gatherings at home, rather than to spend $$ to go out for a meal)
3) Take up a course (likely to try to get a driving license..)
4) To keep my house neat and nice (from inside out.. haha..difficult task.. but i will try)
5) Try to organise a family trip (Likely Penang... or maybe Txxxxx ;) )
6) Work- Would be a busy year, but I plan to keep it simple, finish the projects assigned and stay in low profile.
7) Cook a few meals a week for my hubby.
8) Be on a healthy lifestyle plan with hubby (Try to eat healthy and work out regularly)
9) Buy some nice english karaokie songs for my parents.. so that i can also have some songs to sing along when there is a karaokie session at their house.
10)...keep the last one a secret!!! for ppl who know me.. no need for me to say, you will also know what it is.

Things that I have achieved in 2007:
1) Being independant!!!!!!! (This time was the longest time apart from D.. so sad and lonely)
2) Went London and enjoyed myself. This trip I really coz it was planned by D. We went to harrods for the experience too.. their cheese cake is super delicious.. had my first krispy cream donut there, my first taste of parma ham, my first trip to a castle, my first time setting eyes on crown jewels.. hehe. it was a great eye opener.
3) Work- super challenging work.. having to work with external org (its like hitting my head with a brick wall each time i due with them)..but finally it was implemented.
4) Increase my Community Chest donation.. haha.. (regardless where the money went, i felt i did a part for the needys)..
5) Maintain the Fish aquarium and took care of the fish when it turned crazziee (never knew that that fish can turn crazziee.. think it got depression coz too long never see its master already)..phew.. can't wait to hand back this responsiblity to D.

Thing I was most disgusted with myself in 2007:
1) idiotic email episode..still suffering panic attacks from this so i have to block my mind off this incident. (lesson learnt, don't get involved in other's gossip or email.)

Major event impacting my life 4ever:
1) Demise of Father-in-Law. My view of life and death changed alot after it.

Saving the best for last!!!! Best Achievement award ...
1) No more outstanding bills!!!!
(less the car loan and housing loan and monthly giro deductions -income tax...tv license... etc etc.. haha...)

Anyway, my hope for 2008 is that the world will be peaceful and calm. Economy maintains its growth. Family and friends, all healthy and happy!!!!!!
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What is wealth without happiness? What is happiness without health? What is wealth without health? So appreciate your life with what you earn and what you achieve, while you and your love ones are as fit as a fiddle. Don't hold back your love.. thinking that there is always a tomorrow for you to do it.

Lost in translation

Sometimes we say things which may hurt another indirectly and the hurt inflicted is unnecessary as it wasn't meant to be interpretated in that way in the first place. This is what i mean by lost in translation.

My gal friend said to me this many years later .. that she use to detest me when we were studying in secondary school... cause i was sacastic and had hurt her feelings. After i found out about it, i was quite sad.. cause a harmless remark (I don't even know what i said) had cause her to feel bad. I felt bad being someone to cause one pain.

What i want to say is that sometimes the ones were tend to hurt are the ones who love us the most as they put what we say to heart. If we are not important to them, they won't even bother about what we say. Its because we are important, its because we matter to them, that what we say penetrates to their heart.

So thats why i feel that we must be very careful of our speech to the ones we love, we must treat them with love, respect and tenderness. Coz what we say matters.

Felt sad that sometimes the things we say would make our love one feel bad and lousy and guilty. Rather than inflicting hurt, i want to be one who will bring joy and smiles to my love ones.

Power of speech.. use it probably and it will bring harmony and peace, use it wrongly, and it would cause much sadness and pain.

Seemingly Meaningless Things

Why does one get entangled with seemingly meaningless things.

Somethings i wonder, why is it so important to look good or impress people when you don't even bother to look within. What's so great about an apple which looks good outside but is rotten inside. I see these people as being lame.

If you rot inside, why bother .. why bother at all to pretend to be a good soul .... isnt it meaningless.. since everyone who "knows" you.... knows you already.

If you don't even bother to make any effort, if you are not consistent in your actions, then don't bother at all. Its just lame.

So back to my first sentance... being entangled in seemingly meaningless things is to pretend to be someone who you are not, is to waste time to create a faux image of yourself... so in that sense.. isn't it meaningless ..haha

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I really wonder sometimes.. does everyone has some inner thoughts.. Mine inner thoughts are mostly happy thoughts.. which helps to guide my mind to peace and happiness but .. i worry for those whose thoughts are otherwise..probably it is this group of people who may go into desperation , delusion and destruction....